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Moving out for good is one of the greatest fears I have. I am born in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates. But my family follows Filipino Culture and parenting. Thus, moving out is a big issue in our family.
My parents are the best, they provide what I need and even supportive whatever my passion is. For the twenty-six (26) years of my existence. They never failed to guide, lead, and inspire me. They even saved me many times whenever I am on my “critical wallet days”. My mom and dad is reaching 60 already. Reason why I am pressured the past few days. They are not getting any younger, so do I.
Millennials nowadays prefer to live with parents even when they are already employed. This is because, people think it is being “practical” or “we can save more money” mindset. I am not against people living with their parents until now, it is completely your choice.
But to my friends and readers out there who feel and plan to move out for good anytime soon? Are you ready to apply what you have learned from home and experience hardships and struggles?
Here are the five (5) things I realized on the second day of being independent and to achieve growth along the way:
1. What you really want in life
Know what you really want in life. May it be your needs or luxuries. Are you comfortable living in a condo or a big house to fill stuffs as time goes by? Is it near your workplace? Is your house or condo near any market or a village with high-security policy? It is easier to know all of these by listing it so you can narrow down where you will start or what you to prioritize first.
2. Be practical and know your financial capacity
Learn how to budget for yourself. Plan what you need for the whole week ahead of time. Food and drink, bills like electricity or water utility bill, monthly rental dues (whenever it is applicable). I realized last time that I am no longer into brands, but more of the price. Price over brand. Quality over brand. Moving out already taught me of not being blinded by brands or advertisements. Also, make sure that whatever house or condo you will have, should be 20 or 30% only of your monthly earnings. I actually pay only five-thousand monthly for my house, which is just around 5 or 10% of what my monthly salary is.
3. Be extra careful with yourself and house
Living independently means being careful with yourself and loving yourself more. This means you always prioritize your safety or security. If there are any Police station nearby your house or condo, if the streetlights are well-lit at night, good and peaceful neighborhood, and install a CCTV if possible and can afford.
4. Know who to deal with
Always get to know who your neighbors are. One of my Supervisors in the office advised me to be friendly with my neighbors, because they are also the ones who will help you whenever you are in need in any case of emergency.
5. Build a tough and trusted circle of friends. Keep it small.
I have been avoiding some friends or people that has really nothing to do with me in the future. Who’s completely unsupportive and remember me all along. When people tends to pull you down and breaks your heart (not only your partner but even friends), decide immediately if you still want to have them along your way. Creating a small circle of friends but is trustworthy and who will be by your side may it be through ups or downs is one of the best blessing we will ever have in life. Close friends are like the second family that God will give us.
Now if you are prepared and have checked this 5 things to know before moving out, then I am wishing you a good luck to your new journey and may God bless us! Remember, it will really be hard at first. All the craziness and doubts and overthinking, you will experience all of it, but I know you can do it. Just keep on moving forward and seek God for guidance and signs for every step you will make.
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Naks naman
I’m scared on what’s next. I am overthinking. But I am still moving forward.
Talaga naman 😁
Congrats on moving out! Great job for realizing these things on your second day of independence. 🙂 Some learned it the hard way, others just go back crawling into their parents’ house. 🙂
I-take note ko ang mga ito. Sa ngayon, wala pa kong balak bumukod sa nanay ko. Breadwinner kasi ako kaya kawawa naman sila kung iiwanan ko.
That’s life. I love how you wrote this article, very deep and practical in a way. Thanks for these pieces of advice! ❣️
Yung tsinelas… nag nmove out din 😆✌
Joking aside, mahirap mag move out ah. Congrats!
Especially talaga Filipino culture, laging nsa parents parin kahit matanda na
I totally agree with number one and this applies to other aspects of life as well. Some people can dive into things without really knowing what they want in life and how to obtain them. I had to learn this the hard way in some instances. hehe
Nice sir 👏👌
Moving out made me stronger, learned lessons from life and from my mistakes.
It’s not bad to move out as long as you know the consequences of your actions.
Naalala ko dati i wanted to move out nun wala pa ko family kasi nainbyerna lang sa house. Pero looking back grabe hindi ko kakayanin hahahahaa!!! Feelingera lang ako. Finances and emotionally di ko kakayanin. Until now, 7 yrs na din ako wala sa mom ko gusto ko pa din na magkasama kami, malapit lang housw ko sa kanya pero iba kasi yung biglaan kang bubukod with an infant noon.
good luck! it’s a good step for you and you’re lucky you have supportive parents.
Homaygash, ang taba ko sa group picture haha! Thanks Adam for including me in your small circle of friends. For me, I’ll just move out pag mag aasawa na ko haha!
Hey, Adam! Good luck on your decision to move out. Practicing independence is a very important step for personal growth. 🙂
Congratulations. This is a really big steps. I attempted to do this one year after starting work, but it is not easy. Sobrang hirap din kapag you wanna stay sa manila. I hope ill be able to be independent na din someday and i think I’ll be able to use your advice. Hi to other blogger friends din. Hihi
I like your article. It’s not that long, easy to read and understand. Easy to relate too =)
Congrats on your milestone. I hope you keep up with the positivity of living independently. Financial planning skill is really important. Haha.
Congrats! I semi did this when I was in college because I need to stay in dorm. But since I am studying and I need allowance from my parents, I am not totally independent from them. I hope you’re doing well sa pagiging independent and yes, be always be conscious about your security even if you are a guy. Mas lalong mahirap ang pagmo-move out dito sa Pinas because of the fact that there are bad people out there.
5 is the best! Hindi talaga importante ang madaming kaibigan kahit isa or 2 lng ang mahalaga totoo at supportahan ka nila.
Isa sa pinakamalaking desisyon to. Ako hindi ako aalis sa bahay ng parents ko kung di ako nagkaron ng sariling pamilya,at mahirap talaga sya kase kahit gaano ako kahanda, nanay pa din ang hanap hanap ko sa tuwing magkakasakit ako, kaya talagang dapat pag isipan ng mabuti. At makakatulong itong mga sinulat mo sa ibang nagbabalak bumukod 😊
Awww good for you that you’ve decided to move out and live independently! 🙂 Ang mura ng 5K a month for a house ~ ang galing! 😀 Nakakainspire ‘to. Hopefully one day I can live on my own already. Right now I have to take care of my elderly parents since two of my sibs are married and moved out already.
You’ve got great parents, congrats. And congratulations on moving out ang mas maging independent. Love your list. I moved out when I was 18 tapos nakitira ako sa ate ko ng mid-20’s.